Get his Passion Back

Would you like to know the sure-fire way to recapture a man’s passion and interest in you and your relationship?

Sure, you could believe that since he seems to no longer appreciate you the way he used to that he’s not worth it and doesn’t get it.

But there’s more to it if you’ve had something special that you’d like to keep growing.

There are 2 things I’ve found to be true for almost every good relationship that’s fallen into a rut –

1) The deeper ATTRACTION both people used to feel that made them outwardly loving and appreciative of each other has faded

And…

2) Both partners feel DISCONNECTED, even though they’re still together and going through the motions of their relationship

I can help you in both these areas, if you’re really ready to make a change in your love life.

My best-selling eBook “The Secret to The Hearts of MEN” will show you why a man’s affections and passion often “fizzle” after a short while even though you’re great together, and the easy steps you can take to get the attraction and connection back.

Discover what the secret to a man staying committed for the long-run is, and how to get your relationship back on track.

And if you’d like to just focus on recapturing that magic “spark” which was the reason you and your man hit it off and became more than just friends in the first place…

Then learn more about how to keep a deep level of lasting attraction burning bright in your relationship.

I want to share something I’ve learned with you from years of working with women in long-term relationships.

It’s about how to take your relationship that feels stuck in the mud and either turn it around, or know when to let go.

See, the 2 questions I get most often from women who write me are:

1) “How can I get him back?”

Or…

2) “How can I help save or fix our relationship?”

Often times we have to be willing to face our fears and LET GO of what we want in order to clear a new path for ourselves.

And by doing this, we open up space to let new things in that couldn’t get in or become clear to us before.

And while this act of opening up feels scary at first…

The new space it creates allows us to start RECEIVING the love that we’ve been missing.

And this is when we can stop searching outside ourselves for the love we want, and recognize all the places where we don’t see or feel love.

I personally believe that there a lot of women out there who could stand to break out of their relationships that they’ve been worrying about and processing over for months or years.

And, ironically, the only way to save or repair some of the relationships out there is to
be willing to WALK AWAY in a loving way.

It’s amazing the change and transformation that can happen when we set ourselves free, stop trying to control our lives… and let love take it’s course.

Have you had a series of bad relationships and you’re starting to guess that you might have some unhealthy feelings that are creating some negative patterns for you?

If you’re struggling with some of your own “inner” issues and feelings of needing to try and control your feelings and your relationship…

Or you’ve found yourself stuck in unhealthy and negative thinking and feelings…

And you’ve caught yourself unintentionally PUSHING A MAN AWAY because of your own fears or frustrations…

Then it’s time to stop letting yourself get in your own way of love and a great relationship.

What if you met the right man for you, and you accidentally pushed him away for good because of the things you’re holding onto inside that you can’t let go of from the past?

What if you’ve already pushed the right man away?

Don’t let this happen to you. It’s time for you to break the cycle once and for all.

SETTING YOUR “GUIDE” AND FINDING THE LOVE YOU KNOW IS POSSIBLE

Does love come to us and turn into a LASTING and FULFILLING RELATIONSHIP just because we really want to have love?

Or does love and a great relationship require something more from you?

There’s 1 thing that every woman has to keep in her heart and mind as a kind of “guide” for herself in order to both attract the right man, and to create the right kind of healthy and lasting relationship between them.

And that one thing is YOUR OWN VISION of what a GREAT RELATIONSHIP looks like for you.

I’m talking about the kind of relationship that fills you and makes you the most beautiful and inspired woman you can be.

You might think of this as your “highest self” in love.

A simple way to put this is having your own STANDARDS.

Living to your own standards means not just wanting a certain life, but living that life
yourself regardless of others. (Men)

Too many women fall into the trap of NOT having their relationship live up to what they want, and instead of observing this and adjusting their life and relationship for the better…

They create more pain in their lives by finding all kinds of ways to keep struggling AGAINST the very things that aren’t working.

Here’s a helpful way to think about these kinds of situations -

When you PUSH on something that doesn’t move, it means that what you are pushing on is moved to RESIST YOU with a force greater than or equal to the force you are pushing with.

This is a law of physics and the world around you.

When you push against a feeling, or a person, or a relationship… guess what happens?

That thing also RESISTS.

This is how we often trap ourselves, and get caught in our own patterns of struggle.

Following your standards in relationships doesn’t mean PUSHING on a man to be different, or convincing him to change.

Following your standards means quietly observing the life and love you are choosing to create and share – and being the one person in charge of making sure you are living the kind of life and relationship you desire.

When you observe your own life with love and compassion for yourself, it becomes clear to you what is right and wrong for you.

And more importantly…

You don’t end up settling for less than you deserve. And you end up TEACHING those closest to you how to love and respect you.

Now, there’s a little trick about having standards for yourself and living up to them.

When you choose to live your life the way you really want it, then there’s a beautiful price you pay in relationships -

If you receive anything less than what you want or expect from a man, you aren’t allowed to fall apart and dwell in what he hasn’t given you.

Going to a place of blame and criticism is not part of your “best” or “higher” self.

When you have
chosen to create and live your own life, and you have taken the responsibility for loving another… it is YOUR PLACE to remain that “whole person” you are who doesn’t NEED and DEMAND what you want from a man.

But instead chooses to INSPIRE the kind of love you want to share, and gives love freely when you have chosen to.

I’ll boil it down to a simpler point -

Living a great love life means loving and appreciating ALL THAT IS.

After all, we can’t get to a place of true love and of deep connection unless we are open to seeing the WHOLE PICTURE – both good and bad.

When you recognize a man as someone wonderful, that is part of living a great love life.

And so is recognizing that a man has shortcomings of HIS OWN, and feeling not anger
but COMPASSION for him.

Lots of women become hurt and blame or criticize a man for being less than they want him to be.

Or they take his shortcomings personally, as though they all mean something about THEM.

When a man does hurtful, painful or dishonest things in a relationship with women… a man is saying more about WHO HE IS than the woman he’s with.

When you choose to live your life with love, it’s your role to see your relationship
for WHAT IT IS.

Living your standards is accepting what is and coming to terms with whether or not this man and this relationship is really right for YOU.    

Living your standards is not dwelling on WHAT ISN’T, and suffering and falling apart because you wish things were different.

I think you’re starting to see where I’m going with all of this.

I talk in detail about how to communicate your standards to the man in your life so that he’ll not only listen… but he’ll start treating you differently in your relationship.

When a man is with a woman, if he sees that she doesn’t just want a relationship for the sake of a relationship… then the ways he sees her and treats her will become instantly different.

The strange thing about men is that when a woman is loving AND willing to walk away from a relationship that isn’t good enough for her…men become instantly ENGAGED on an emotional level and want to find a way to be a better partner and make her happy.

But if a man senses from your emotions that you are more attached to the relationship than you are to your own happiness – he’ll often start thinking of your relationship as less valuable to him.

I know this all sounds strange and ridiculous, but it’s the way men think and act.

For more tips on exactly how a man can recognize you as the amazing and valuable woman you are, and how to dial up the passion and love between you through a few simple words…

Don’t wait when all this growth and possibility for more love in your life is right in front of you.

WHERE TO START WITH TURNING YOUR RELATIONSHIP AROUND?

Alright, let’s get to some specifics.

First things first if you’re looking to turn your relationship around:

Step 1: Break The Cycle

We often have a hard time seeing the situations we are in while we are in them.

When we’re in a relationship that feels stuck, or isn’t working… it’s often impossible to see how we are feeding into the very problems we want to resolve or understand.

The very best thing to do if you feel an unhealthy or negative pattern in your relationship isn’t to TRY HARDER to fix or solve things.

TRYING HARDER is the first and most common mistake that most women make when they sense that something is off in their relationship.

Trying harder only draws you and him deeper into the cycle you’re already experiencing.

You have to stop perpetuating the energy that   is coming from what isn’t working.

The more you stay with these feelings, the more you will perpetuate more of the same.

To affect change, you have to be willing to step outside of your own habits and patterns.

A great way to do this is to simply stop arguing, complaining, or trying to make any kind of point about your feelings, or about him.

Do this even just for a day, and go about your life with excitement and interest, and you’ll be amazed at what can transpire while you’re not even trying.

Men LOVE to be with you when you are present and simply living for the moment in your life.

Your stepping away from the energy that has been in your relationship will instantly make things feel lighter.

And you can approach things once you start to see some new and better energy between you.

Step 2: Get “Grounded”

Ground yourself and get yourself to a place of  positive well-being.

We all know that we aren’t our best with others when we aren’t feeling great about ourselves, or our relationship.

Do yourself a favor and before you engage in any discussion about your relationship, put yourself in a more grounded and loving place inside.

When you put more love into the things in your life, you almost always get more love in return.

A few simple ways to do this are:

-Take a long hot bath when frustration or anxiety strikes, and put your attention into your SENSES for just that time

-Be active. When our body moves, it also helps move and clear our mind

-Remember to BREATHE. Breathing deeply for just 4 or 5 deep full breaths in and out can instantly fill you back up emotionally and put your heart and mind in a better place

Now, once you’re grounded, you’re in a much better place to think and feel clearly about your relationship, and how to approach talking about it with your man.

Step 3: Consider Your “Approach”

It’s great to share our feelings, and to know how men feel.

When  men grow and mature as adults, they  take a critical step – they learn to “own” their emotions, instead of having emotions own them.

That way, they aren’t just running on auto-pilot letting any feeling or thought that comes to them take over and run the show.

They become more CONSCIOUS, and they can learn to OBSERVE their own thoughts and feelings in the moment as they come up.

This, I would argue, is one of the very most valuable and important skills to have in a relationship.

Why?

Put simply, because it allows men to stay focused and directed at POSITIVE OUTCOMES in their life.

If what you want is to feel CONNECTED to your man, but you allow some of your feelings of sadness to cause you to lash out or CRITICIZE HIM…

Then it’s very unlikely that he’s going to respond positively and CONNECT back with you.

Step 4: When In Doubt, Love What Is

There’s only one way to live a satisfying and fulfilling life.

Or to have a satisfying and fulfilling relationship.

And that’s to love your life, or your relationship, for exactly how it is RIGHT NOW.

Loving what is isn’t something that most of us are used to doing
.

Often times in our lives we feel alone and as though if we didn’t try so hard to hold
everything together that it would all fall apart.

Not true.

Try it once. Try not holding your world together and feeling like you have to worry or
struggle for every outcome.

The amazing thing is… the sun still rises, and the world still goes on without your willing it to do so.

Men in relationships love nothing more than a woman who is is in touch with her feelings…

And who can still go about her life in a loving and open way even when things aren’t exactly the way she wants them to be.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen women become upset with a man for something that the man (naively) didn’t know would hurt her feelings, and she pushed him away out of fear.

Striking out when we feel hurt is a sure way to create more bad feelings and
misunderstanding in your relationship.         

Yes, men can and should be more understanding in these situations and care for your feelings.

But it doesn’t always work that way.

Wouldn’t you rather know how to actually talk to and share with “the other sex”, and
know that you could always get the connection and understanding you really want…

Rather than trying to DEMAND that a man see you and understand your feelings, and hoping that things work out?

If you’d like to take yourself and your relationship out of that UNCERTAIN place where
you don’t know if you’ll be able to stay close and connected, then a great place to start is knowing how open, honest and loving COMMUNICATION works inside a relationship.

One challenge too many women have is not having a good man they are close to who they can look to in order to see how a good man really talks and acts in a close relationship.

Lots of women just don’t have a good man as a “model” to work from.

You don’t have to keep guessing. I’ve taken years to put it all together and show you how a man and woman can come together and become close through simple every day communication.

For all my very best tips on how to help a man understand you and listen better in your relationship…

Make sure that you’re not in the uncertain situation of not even knowing how your man is feeling with the help of my “THE Secret to the Hearts of MEN”

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