Dating Somebody Married or In a Relationship?! Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater
They say love is blind but in many cases an eye-opener helps a lot. For instance, if you consider dating somebody who is married or in a relationship, here is an eye-opener for you about what you can expect.
I wouldn’t like to sound conservative and I will on deliberately skip the ethical aspects of dating somebody married or in a relationship, though you just can’t simply forget about them. Instead, I will try to explain why dating somebody married or in a relationship could get very complicated for you. In a sense, learn in advance what you will get and decide if the fight is worth.
Beware: Married Cheaters Hide Their Marital Status
If it is the first time you are dating somebody married or in a relationship, you might not be able to spot all the symptoms. First, you might not even be aware about the real marital/relationship status of the person you are dating. Don’t take for granted that if somebody is with you every now and then, he or she is free. Of course, most people will be free but cheaters tend to hide that they are married or in a relationship.
When you are dating somebody you know is married or is in a relationship, at least from the very start what you are up to. What you don’t know is why he or she cheats on his or her lover. It might feel that your date is just using you. Well, maybe they have feelings for you, or at least find you attractive, but in any case he or she is not yours.
An Extramarital Affair Is Convenient and Boost His or Her Ego
Very often insecure people will start an extramarital affair because this boosts their ego. If you don’t ask for expensive presents, or demand too much, you are the ideal person to cheat with – an inexpensive ego boost. You are just convenient.
No matter how hard you try, chances are that you will always be Plan B – i.e. the secondary option. You will be the one to listen how cruel his or her spouse/partner is, how unhappy they are, etc. A person with a dignity will not accept to be the secondary option.
“I Stay for Kids’ Sake”
When you start dating somebody married or in a relationship, you might have plans for a serious relationship. Your lover will divorce and you will live happily ever after. Could be – there are such cases but more often than not, this won’t happen.
Why? Because your date is tied to his or her partner. You might hear melodramatic excuses, such as “I stay for the kids’ sake”. Don’t buy this. You can care about your kids even if you are divorced, separated, or a single parent.
Rather, when people say they stay in a marriage/relationship because of the kids, usually this hides their real motives. Most often people stay in a marriage/relationship, even in abusive relationships, because this is convenient – somebody pays their bills, or somebody does all the housework, so that you have lots of time to complain and cheat.
Such people, who stay in unfulfilling relationships are usually losers, who are afraid to or can’t make it on their own. Yes, there are people who are afraid to stay single and for whom any relationship is better than being on their own. Such people are a burden for you because even if they commit to you, you will have to carry them through life – they can’t make it on their own.
So, if you had any ideas to date somebody who is married or in a relationship, think again. If you are single and ready to mingle, probably you have much better options than saving losers. Anyway, if you feel that the married person needs somebody’s shoulder to cry on, you can help him or her even if you are not dating – by being just friends, for example, or friends with benefits, if you both agree to it. Just don’t allow yourself to be sucked into an unhappy relationship with somebody who is always making the wrong choices.
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