Why You Sometimes Need to Stay Single
A relationship might seem the most natural thing to you but there are many cases when your best choice is to stay single. Learn why and when.
Staying Single IS Good
I know many people who’d rather die than stay single. They are so used to being in a relationship, even if it is a trashy one, that the very idea to be without a partner makes them uneasy. OK, if you do have a great partner, then you don’t have to dump him or her just for the sake of staying single but in all those cases when your relationship is really a mess, getting out of this relationship asap is the best you can do.
I guess many people are scared by the idea to stay single because they will feel alone and there will be nobody to rely on. Well, if you are a grownup and know how to take a care for yourself, you should definitely be able to live without a partner to rely on for simple things.
As for loneliness, I bet everybody who’d been in a loveless relationship knows how lonely and unhappy you feel then. When you are single and you have your friends, you will feel much happier than when you are with somebody not good for you simply because you are afraid to be single.
Yes, it might be difficult to understand why some people do stay single. The simple explanation is that they are single because they can’t find a partner. Could be, but it is rarely this. More, it is that they either have no time for a relationship at all or are not satisfied with the wrong partner and this is why they opt to stay single till the time for a new relationship is right.
Cases When Staying Single Is Mandatory
No matter how much you crave to be a part of a couple, there are cases when you do need to stay single. Here are some of them:
- After a breakup. There are breakups and breakups and not after every breakup you are that shaken that you don’t know what you are doing. But if your last breakup was a really nasty one, then rushing into a new relationship, a rebound relationship will only make things worse. This is why you need to spend some time on your own and forget your ex first before starting a new relationship.
- When your schedule doesn’t permit a serious relationship. If you have never been there, it might be hard to understand how one can be so busy that he or she doesn’t have time for a serious relationship. However, a serious relationship is a very time-consuming affair and when your job or the other activities that pack your schedule to the limit are pressing you, you simply don’t have the time to pay attention to your lover. If this is something temporary, many partners will show understanding but if it is for a long period of time, you are essentially asking the other person to become a slave to your schedule. Believe me, nobody with dignity and self-esteem will accept such a role!
- When you can’t find a suitable partner. One more case when staying single is mandatory is the very prosaic case when you can’t find a suitable partner. While a loser will be happy with any partner, a normal person won’t make such sacrifices. If you aren’t a loser, chances are you do attract lots of attention but not from the people you’d like. In some cases you might even be pushed into a relationship and you need to find the courage to resist the pressure. If you haven’t learned it by now, you wouldn’t like to learn it the hard way that a bad relationship is an option only for a loser.
One of the things that could make it harder to stay single is your sexual desire. While there are people who don’t miss sex even for years, not everybody is in this group. If you feel you can’t live without sex, you might want to try friends with benefits. Friends with benefits also has the risks of being trapped but it isn’t as bad as a bad relationship.
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